Confidence vs Cockiness

I looked malnourished!🥺

Confidence or cockiness? There is a negative stigma around the word cocky - arrogance and overconfidence engulfs that word in our modern society. I don’t see it that way and I don’t believe you should either. 

I’ll go first.

I’m cocky.

Now it's your turn.

Cockiness is a positive confidence or true confidence. 

Fake it till you make it, you can try that with confidence and it may work for a little bit but you will get caught out. 

I know I did.

I was so skinny, scrawny - people used to question my parents if she was not providing the right nutrition. ‘Why are your boys so skinny?’ they would ask all the time. My brother and I looked malnourished between primary and high school. 

Read my blog series “Scrawny to Huge - Chapter 1: A big mouth in a small body” - it goes into depth about my journey.

I was small but I was LOUD 📣 

I had the biggest mouth and absolute overconfidence or fake confidence. I would stand up for anything and everything, big talker - saying I can do this, I can do that better than everyone. I’ve had my fair share of getting into shit at school. I even had a punch-on (fight) with my cousin Arkash (whom I live with now #36UP) in primary school - almost got a white slip (suspension). That was my first year in Australia after immigrating from Sri Lanka.

But why?

I felt that I had to make up for my lack of size. I felt that if I talked a big game, I wouldn’t be bullied or at least less of it. I was still bullied in high school but I was also the bully at times - made a few of my friends (boys) cry. I’m not proud of it but I could cause some serious damage with my words. It was all a deflection from myself not being bullied or retaliation if I was on the other side. 

I’ve been on both sides. I’ve even written apology letters, attended counselor meetings and plenty of visits to the principal's office in High School purely because of my big mouth.

Where do you stand?🤔

These experiences have taught me valuable lessons for myself and others. I don’t bully people anymore.

I still have brought my cheeky nature from my younger years without all the hate and harmful intentions towards other people. Or at least I’m working towards it.

Everything I’ve endeavored into since then have been about helping myself and in-turn help others along the way. My current profession, Physiotherapy - I absolutely love working with the elderly, all they are looking for is some attention and love. Jayamove Bootcamp - empowering people by providing health and fitness services so they can live a healthy lifestyle. Alpha Nutrition, enlightenment, education and providing my pack with the tools (Magic Myth Pre-Workout and Celestial Strength BCAA) to reach their absolute peak performance.

What I’m trying to say is - I’m very cocky now. I’m cocky with exactly what I’m trying to do for myself and others. I’m cocky with my knowledge in bodybuilding and nutrition. I’m cocky through my experiences and everyone within my circle knows exactly that.

I’m cocky and I can back it up. 

Can you? 

Stay Alpha,

Mith

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