Be Decisive and Build Upon It.

You are entirely made up of your decisions🏗️

Make your decision. Your own opinion.

And then stick to it and follow it through.

A noble thief who stands by his work ethics and principles is more trustworthy than your best friend who has never stuck to their word or choices. Morally speaking, a thief may not be doing the right thing but AT LEAST I can be confident of their work.

What is your biggest fear? ☠️

There could be a multitude of reasons as to why this happens. I fear (pun intended) that the BIGGEST reason is fear. When you make a call, there will either be a positive result or a negative result - all blame or credit falls on you. Everyone is happy to accept the credit with open arms but only a selected few are able to take and accept blame when it all goes to shit. 

What if you are not ready to take the blame? What if you are not ready to accept the responsibility? The confidence in your decision or worse, the lack of decision starts to creep up in its ugliest form. Fear starts to take over.

Fear drives many things in life. Fear of failure, fear of losing someone, fear of life, fear this and fear that!

Biologically speaking fear is a response for survival. It is an autonomic response that detects threats. Now you have two options. 

1. Use it for survival

2. Limit your living

You know exactly which option I’ll be taking.

Are you flaky? It can be more serious than you think🤔

In the wild, survival is escaping from threats like predators or hunting for food. “But Mith, we are no longer in the wild”. Yes I know what you are thinking but can we still use our primal habits to propel our life to how it was meant to be lived? Hell yeah!

Where do we start? Make decisions. 

And then follow it through.

Train your brain to make these calls. Every single time you make a decision and you fail to execute you are doing a disservice to your brain and your wellbeing as a whole. You are CONDITIONING (deconditioning) your brain to continue being flaky.

Decision-making is a skill you can master 🏹

Picture this, at the time of the incident you are content that you made a difficult decision but your brain is laughing at you. It’s thinking ‘this guy is full of shit, I’ll get out of this when the time comes. He never sticks to it anyway’.

How can you overcome this fear of avoidance or failure that stems from making decisions.

Progressive overload. We train it like any other muscle in our body. Progressively making more and more difficult decisions. 

You don’t start by lifting 50kg dumbbells and you definitely don’t start by doing a 21km half-marathon. So I don’t expect that from you either. Start by making small incremental increases in the difficulty of your decision. 

Make a decision that you are confident that you will be able to complete. Then make another, then another and then another. Once you have done that, keep making decisions. It does not matter if the choice you made was not the best when you re-evaluate, what matters is that you made it. Because I’m sure not only will you be making more decisions, but you will also be making better decisions.

It’s a skill you will continue to develop. 

It's a skill you can master.

Are you ready to take control?

Be Decisive,

Mith

Footnotes

I read this piece to my closest few to see what was their take away. One question that arose that I would like to address was ‘but that’s the hardest part, how do you start? How do you get that discipline?’. 

I’m not going to sugarcoat this and say that it’s easy. It is one of the hardest things you will have to do and even harder to maintain this mentality (especially if it's an unfamiliar environment or not your area of expertise). This is why you will always see fewer entrepreneurs and leaders compared to employees and workers. It is always going to be easier to follow a set task that is guided by your superiors. 

At the end of the day, it has got to be a conscious decision to make this change and actively look for every opportunity to grasp as if you are climbing a never-ending ladder. The rungs of this ladder may be right next to each other, they may be broken and some may be spread right apart. How badly do you want to keep climbing? You have to want it, you have to crave it!

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Athi Selladurai: Professional Badminton Player - Australian National Team